Last week I shared an easy way to improve your marriage.
This week I want to talk about showing our kids we love them.
I'll adit that showing our kids we love them can be difficult as we are also guiding, shepherding, and disciplining. Sometimes when we try to show our kids that we love them, all they hear is the correction or instruction. While we may know that there is love in our other parenting communication, our kids don't see it that way.
To avoid our love message getting lost in other messages, the key is to deliver them on their own.
Some day I'll put together a master list of great ways to show kids we love them, but for today -
Text it to them! Nothing crazy, here. Moms, be careful. No hearts and flowers. No mom-memes. Just a simple encouragement for their day or support for something happening is good. Assume friends will see it so don't embarrass them.
Yesterday Son #1 had a speech that he'd been planning a while. I texted, "I know you'll do great on your speech today!" I was showing support AND that I listened to him and remembered the event that was important to him.
Text gratitude. Something like, "Thanks for letting the dogs out this morning. It really helped me to be out on time. Have a super day!" In this way you acknowledge what they did - even if they are expected to do it - and said how it helped you. The second part is important because it shows you're not just making a general thank you.
Just say it. A simple, "I love you" text is great. Again, avoid ❤️ and 🌸.
Show them! Again, this doesn't have to be over the top. Simple is good.
A quick hug and "It's good to see you" at the end of the day can be great.
My kids and I established several visualizations for sleep when they were little. Even as teenagers, I'll ask which "place" we are going to use for our falling-to-sleep visualizations. This reminds them of our special connection. My oldest was recently with a friend for Spring Break and at bedtime I just texted a simple emoji of the place we would use. Even if he didn't do the visualization, it reminded him of my love.
Do something for them that is normally "their job." Did they leave their socks laying around? Pick them up sometimes and just take care of them. Are they supposed to put away dishes but have a lot to do after school? Take care of the dishes for them. These small acts can go a long way.
Remember a few things - don't direct or correct with your love. Let your love stand alone. And don't expect anything in return. That sort of negates the loving message. Just love your kids. I promise they will notice and your relationship will be better for it.
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